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Welcome [March 15, 2006 @ 12:30am]

This community is to serve as a kind of electronic journal of our memories of Lily Waluconis, one of the best friends a person could ever hope to have. We encourage any and everyone who knew Lily to post, with any memories at all, because we realize that no one could know Lily without being affected by her.

To add an entry, simply click the "post" button at the top of the page, or this link here. This will take you to the update page. At the top of that page is a place for username and password, and you should either enter your livejournal information, if you already have a livejournal, or enter:

username: lilywmemories
password: lily's carleton username and year (without a space between them)

Then simply begin typing your entry in the entry box and hit the "update journal" button at the bottom when you are done.

You may feel free to sign your entries or leave anonymous, the important thing is that we all remember Lily.
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Grave [March 08, 2006 @ 4:48pm]

This isn't exactly a memory, but I was wondering if folk knew where Lily was buried, I'd like to go visit her sometime, but realized I don't know where...

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Random thoughts [March 08, 2006 @ 10:47am]

I have so many random memories of Lily, I couldn't decide what to post. I remember being in Japanese class with her and sitting next to her sometimes, and how much fun it was to have her in our Japanese skit groups. Lily was also my tournament partner in badminton fall term. Even though we lost every game, we totally rocked it and Lily had such a great attitude. If I had to lose a tournament with someone, I'm glad it was someone as peppy, kind, and funny as Lily. I'm sad that I barely got to see her this term. I miss you Lily...
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Pictures of Lily [March 06, 2006 @ 8:15pm]

I haven't posted here yet because I really have no idea what to say. But I'm not sure that I ever will--Lily wasn't the kind of person who is easy to put into words. So instead I am posting this: a Flickr group I made so people can post and share pictures of Lily. I will upload any pictures I can find when I have time. Please, anyone who has pictures, please post them. We will all appreciate it.
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the kitchen [March 05, 2006 @ 11:55pm]

I remember, once, when I tried to help her cook, she beat me with a spatula and drove me out of the kitchen shouting "The kitchen is the woman’s place! I’m a woman dammit! I’m being domestic! How the hell am I supposed to be able to learn to do this for my man if you keep getting in the way! Get the hell out and let me be domestic!"

I think about 5 minutes later she turned right around and demanded I join her harem.
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[March 01, 2006 @ 11:51pm]
   It is hard to sum up another's life in just a few sentences, epecially if you knew the person for a long time and that person touched the lives of many others.
I went to school with Lily from the beginning of Junior High all through High School, and she is, by far, the most lively individual I have ever known. When I look back
over the years we were in school together I remember a happy, caring, and intelligent young woman who could make anyone smile just by being near them. Everytime
I look at the flute section during rehearsal at UW, it seems odd not to see her cheerfully playing  in the front row.

Lily - you will most definitely be missed by many people and I am regretful for the many people whose lives were not touched by yours and will never get the chance.
Your life was truly inspiring to me and I know that you will live on in the hearts and souls of all of your close friends and relatives.

Your close friend,
Joshua Teter
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[March 01, 2006 @ 7:32am]

It may appear to some that I've been avoiding the scene. The truth of the matter is I couldn't think of anything to say that probably hasn't been said a hundred times already. I do want those who were closest to Lily to know that you've been in my thoughts.

I only knew Lily through Hunter and only met her a few times. However, I do remember the first time I met Lily. I invited Hunter to come along to Will's house for pizza, movies, and general hanging out. Hunter asked if he could bring Lily along to which I had absolutely no objections. We went up to Will's house where we spent the evening eating freezer pizzas, watching Home Movies, and playing various board games. They had to teach me how to play one game, and Lily was very patient and helpful in teaching me the rules as we went along. At the time, I probably thought very little about the evening, finding it insignificant as we often do. Now I'll be sure to hold on desperately to that memory.

As many have already stated, I too wish I would have gotten to know Lily better. I distinctly remember having thoughts like that. There was on time when she was leaving my apartment when I thought something along the lines of, "I should try hanging out with her even if Hunter couldn't come along." As a matter of fact, I do believe she actually said something like that at the time. Even just a few weeks ago I was wondering if Lily had a Live Journal or thought about asking someone for her e-mail address. I cannot allow my self to regret it now, but only hope to remember to be more open in the future in meeting new people.

Even if it was for only a brief moment in time, I'm glad I met you Lily.
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little adventures [February 26, 2006 @ 10:38am]

I only met Lily once, in Seattle. She was a nice person, but as has been mentioned she did not have a great sense of direction. I think we drove around for about an hour before finding her house to take her back to Wakey's. At the time, I admit, it was a bit of an annoyance. Looking back on it now though, I think of it as a little adventure through some part of a far off state that I would not have seen otherwise. I'm sad that I did not have the chance to know Lily better, but she was a great friend to a lot of people I do know well and care for. So whenever I get lost I'll think of it as a little adventure and try to enjoy getting through it, in remembrance of Lily.
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Being Lost [February 25, 2006 @ 5:13pm]

It saddens me to think that I never knew Lily outside of AKP and being in Japan. We had such odd coincidences that led to knowing each other prior to the trip, it was fate that we'd become friends on the program. I remember her in the good times when she walked around with a big smile and her angel pig as well as the hard times.

In particular, I remember one time I was showing another friend of mine who was visiting Kyoto around the city. We were walking around the Imperial Palace and I heard my name get called out. As I turned, there was Lily, holding her plush pig and hurrying toward me. She had gotten lost and needed someone to show her the way back to Doshisha. I think her sense of direction lead to more fun conversations with her than if she could have managed by herself.

*sigh* you will be missed Lily.
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Picture [February 25, 2006 @ 2:49pm]


Lily Lily

Lily, from Japan. The thing she's sitting on is a pig statue/sculpture thing.

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Memorial Service [February 25, 2006 @ 12:46am]

Hey. I'm just posting to let people know that Ashley, Tim and I will be flying in for Lily's service in WA next weekend, and that if anyone has anything they'd like to pass along to her family, or messages you'd like us to share, please let us know before we head out. Also, since I live in the area, I'd like to offer a place to stay for anyone heading in from out of town.
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Thank you. [February 25, 2006 @ 11:59am]

[ mood | pensive ]

My name is Dina. My brother Hunter was Lily's fiancé, and we also went to high school together at Lake Washington High School in Kirkland.

My biggest regret in all of this is that I feel like I never really got a chance to meet the real Lily. She and Hunter started dating after I had already moved away to college, and she didn't come to very many family gatherings. (I think she felt awkward around my family for a lot of the time, which is another thing I regret.) I do remember staying at her house before flying to New Orleans and playing Bust-a-Move 4 with a dance pad, and the time that my rat peed on her and she didn't care. By the time she and Hunter announced their engagement, I had moved to Australia with my partner.

My last memory of Lily was at least a year and a half ago. She and Hunter were up in Bellingham (where I went to college) for some reason, and we were sitting on my living room floor playing Apples to Apples. I remember realizing that she wasn't the shy girl I remembered her to be from high school, but a funny and caring person. I could see that she and Hunter loved each other very much. I was glad that he had found that.

Above my computer desk, I have a picture my mom sent me with the Christmas package. It's of the whole family - my mom, my dad, my brother, and Lily - with big smiles plastered across their faces. My brother looks as happy as I've ever seen him. Lily looks like she has lost any awkwardness she felt around my family. Used to be I looked at that picture and felt a twinge of excitement to fly out for the wedding in July, to get to know this person that I hadn't given myself the chance to really know. Now I look at that picture with a twinge of sadness.

Reading your posts to this community has given me more of a sense of who Lily was. While in a sense it makes me wish I got to know her better, it also makes me feel like I did get to know her through reading your cherished memories. It's hard too - especially reading about her many babies, who would have been my nieces and nephews.

Godspeed, Lily. I'm sorry I never really gave you the chance you deserved. But know that you are loved, and you are missed.

(Would it be appropriate of me to post this community in lwhs? I think there may be some people on that community who might wish to share their memories of Lily as well.)

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Thank you all [February 24, 2006 @ 4:09pm]

I've met some of you, and wish I'd had the chance to meet all of you. Lily and I had been engaged to be married this summer. I've got a lot of things to deal with right now, and am not really ready to go through all of the wonderful memories all of you have put up so far, but I just want you to know how much I appreciate this. I'll be sure to come back and read all of your posts, and leave a few memories of my own. It's good to see how many people Lily's life touched.

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Honesty [February 24, 2006 @ 3:45am]

I think that I got to know Lily - the real Lily - last year in Japan. I had taken some of the same Japanese language classes with her, and met up with her and Wakey once in Seattle, but I don't feel that I "knew" her until last year.

I think that when you go abroad, live in a different community for 8 months, people get to see the real you. You lose all pretense and "comfortableness"; you're stripped of all your barriers and protections. So when I went, I was able to really read people on the program. As an elected program representative it was almost a sort of job for me - I talked to all of the program participants and really got a feel for what kind of people they were.

To me, Lily embodied - and still does in her memory - honesty. Pure and simple. I have met no one more honest to others and to themselves. You would never find her hiding behind anything - her medical troubles, problems with adapting to Japanese living, her host family...nothing. No matter what happened, she stayed Lily - and getting to know her and looking at myself, I realized how often I had faked this or that or hid behind something, hid from something. It made me really reevaluate the way I deal with my own problems - it doesn't take just strength, but courage, determination, acceptance, perseverance - and she had them all. I never could quite get over my amazement, and don't think I ever will.

I wish that everyone could have been on the program, that everyone could see and feel what I felt. I wish Lily could have touched each and everyone of you like she touched me.

We'll miss you Lily.
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[February 23, 2006 @ 8:57pm]

I remember whiling many hours watching the live action sailor moon with Lily (and frequently Brynne and Victoria). We would sing along to all the songs, act out the transformation sequences, and in general be the biggest dorks in the history of Carleton.

We each took our favorite senshi (Lily's being Venus, mine being Mercury, Brynne's being Juptier, and Victoria's being Mars), and ran around pretending be them. Lily and I would even discuss transforming into our senshi-selves before doing any of the more difficult folk dances (particularly Bucimis, as I recall). And when we got to the dark Mercury saga, we would practice placing one foot in front of the other so as to walk in a straight line while staring downward evily. Apparently we did utterly fail at being intimidating, but we had much fun trying.
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[February 22, 2006 @ 4:44pm]

Lily was my first Japanese tutee. It was nice to sit there and help her with her homework and then get to explain the wack things about Japanese grammar that I only understood because I'd had multiple multiple odd Japanese profs.

I remember how she and Ashley *always* danced together at folkdance. And how I wondered if they were dating, temporarily. However, I distinctly remember her having been the woman once, with the excuse that she was wearing a skirt. She was one of the most consistent recitivists we got--I think she was in the fd class more than I was. It was always nice, having her around. She was always early. She would joke with Ashley, and I can still hear her laugh.

I also remember her being at Druids when we went to the labyrinth on the island and walked around and talked about it. She couldn't come to sweatlodges because they would be bad for her, but she came to tea. And the two of us together meant that there sure wouldn't be alcohol at Druid events, and I didn't have to be alone on that.
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[February 22, 2006 @ 8:11am]

Probably the first clear memories I have of Lily (and some of the best memories I have of freshman year in general) involve working with her on the end-of-term Japanese skits. My archiving process (AKA "the big plastic tub full of paper under my bed") is less than painstaking, so I was suprised to find three of the scripts from freshman and sophomore years undamaged and together, sitting on top of a pile of damaged and scattered papers.
One of the scripts is unfortunately incomplete, but I will post here the version I have and edit as more complete versions become available.

English translations of the skit are mine; I apologize for any errors. The format for translation is:

Speaker's name: Line in Japanese
:The above line translated into English

Next Speaker's Name: Line in Japanese
:translation of Next Speaker's line.


I have corrected obvious typos (i.e. changed むずかし to むずかしい), but I have not substantially changed the scripts, and have done my best to preserve the original use of syllabic script and chinese characters. The English translation attempts to convey the intended meaning of the script (I will not be translating our mistakes). My notes on the performance are in brackets. Stage directions are in parentheses.

Without further preamble, the skits:

日本語の鬼 The demon of Japanese LanguageCollapse )

へいけの小さいうさきフーフー Little Bunny Foo Foo of the House of HeikeCollapse )

the Shoujo anime skitCollapse )
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[February 22, 2006 @ 10:46am]

I didn't know Lily well, but she was one of those people who, every time I saw her I would say to myself "I really should get to know her better" because she was such a fun person to be around.

My last memory of her was sitting in Ashley's room, talking and laughing. I asked her what her plans were now that she was so close to graduation and she said, "lots of babies!" which I thought was wonderful. There are other bits and pieces of conversations with her that I can remember, about her comps, Japanese in general, her mother, her giant cock, anime, etc. But my most overwhemling memory is that she was a fun person to be around and really easy to talk to, even if you didn't know her well.
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[February 22, 2006 @ 9:15pm]

[ mood | sad ]

Lily and I had Japanese Literature together, and I remember one beautiful spring day she asked Tomonari-sensei if we could take class outside. I remember hearing her Japanese, and I thought..."Damn, I hope my Japanese will be as great as that!" Being a 103 Japanese student at the time, I emulated all the Intermediate Japanese students.

A few times after class I would end up having giddy conversations with Lily and Wakey about some of the anime we've always cherished. One being Sailor Moon OF COURSE!

Lily always had really insightful answers to Tomonari-sensei's questions in the Literature class, and she always helped me undestand certain parts of the books we read more with her answers.

I also remember being SO excited for all the students who were going to be AKP students in 2005-2006. Lily was among all of them, and it was really great to see how excited all of them were. I wanted to be as excited and happy about living Japan as all of them.

Ah, I did not know Lily extremely well, but I knew instantly that she was such a wonderful, nice person!

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[February 22, 2006 @ 12:23am]

I remember waking up on my birthday to discover a message from Lily sitting on my door, in which she promised to give me Kenshin if she could, but was afraid she'd have to keep Inu Yasha all for herself.

I remember the two of us theatrically discussing how Chris tore our hearts out, ripped them into little pieces, stomped on the pieces, and then lit them on fire, because he didn't come to Anime Club with us once.

Mostly, I just remember the way she smiled and laughed, and was able to always make me happy . . .
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